SHE’S A WOMAN: My Mother

W O MAN…… I’LL SAY IT AGAIN!  WOMAN!  Remember that song?

How did it go…

“She can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never let you forget your a man, cause she’s a WOMAN, W O MAN!

Truth is when we hear the word WOMAN spoken our minds often go to icons of that gender. Elizabeth Taylor, Jackie Kennedy, Julia Roberts, and the top of most people’s all time female icons list…Audrey Hepburn.

Truth is, if we could ask each of these woman if they were or are completely pleased with the way they look or the lives they have led chances are they would find fault with themselves in some way!  

Audrey Hepburn for example carried herself with such grace and poise she seemed to float in her 5′ 7″ frame. She looked as though she could have eaten anything she wanted and never gain an ounce. I mean after all she had breakfast at Tiffany’s! Forgive the pun!

However, when interviewed she stated that she always wanted curves and desired to be shorter than she was. She dreamed of a dance career and she was too tall for it at the time.

Seems like we are never satisfied doesn’t it. Worse yet, we play the comparison game.

If I only had her shape I would be content. If I only made money like she does I would have what I need. If I only looked like her I would be happy…and on and on and on it goes!

Comparison is the enemy of Contentment.
I believe God wants us to be content with who He made us to be.

As we get close to the day set aside in our country to honor our Mother’s, I am ever thankful that God put wonderful women in my life.  

I have an incredible Mother and had an incredible Grandmother who set the bar high! They taught me to be proud of being a woman, to be confident in knowing I could do anything I put my mind to, and most of all to feel beautiful and not be ashamed of it.

Both women walked tall with grace and poise. They dressed feminine and classy. They were not embarrassed of who they were. Yet, they both had kindness and humility at their core.

My Mother;

My mother is absolutely beautiful physically!  She has deep round brown eyes and dark brown hair that is anything but mousey! She is perfectly proportioned and carries her frame on broad shoulders. Her legs are still shapely even at her age and her thin ankles still accentuate them.  She always dressed classy but with style. She rivaled Jackie O. in her day! However, none of these striking features are what you notice about her. It is her tender heart, her happy spirit, and her lovely smile that greets you.

My Mom loved everyone she met and loved her four girls even more!  She made holidays special, birthdays spectacular, and summer time off of school an adventure.  She never had a a lot of money but created adventure like nature hikes, library days, art museum visits and baking together to make those long days fun.


What stuck out to me when I was younger and then grown is how many people knew her and admired her at the High School she worked at. My Mom went to work by necessity and ran the attendance office at one of our local High Schools. The students at the High School would beg to help her in her office as their elective class. They just loved being around her!

All of the teachers knew her by name and the coaches would give her free tickets to all of the games! She was a wonderful friend who met needs and she was the best daughter her parents could have had! My Mom never desired to work but did what she needed to do to help provide for her family.


In the Bible there is a woman that I have never heard a sermon preached about.  She was strong, confident and faithful also. When God asked her to accomplish a hard assignment for Him, she did it!

Huldah was married to “the keeper of the kings wardrobe.”  This connected her to the royal court and palace which gave her residency in Jerusalem. She was a prophetess who spoke for God. When King Josiah ruled over Judah the Lord gave Huldah a very difficult message to speak, but she did it…

She said to them, “The Lord, the God of Israel, has spoken! Go back and tell the man who sent you, ‘This is what The Lord says: I am going to bring disaster on this city and its people. All the words written in the scroll that the King of Judah has read will come true. For my people have abandoned me and offered sacrifices to pagan gods, and I am very angry with them…”                     2 Kings 22:14

I LOVE to tell people how much God loves them, but I am not raising my hand to be the one to tell people God is very angry with them and will eventually destroy them!

But Huldah was faithful to God’s call on her life and did not back down even when the assignment was hard!

I am thankful for the example of this woman in my life and for the example of my Mother in my life! They were both strong women used by God to bless others in His name!

God uses women just as He uses men. God uses servants just as He uses masters. God uses the rich just as He uses the poor. God uses natives just as He uses foreigners.

We are all made in God’s image and hold equal value in Him!

I thank God that I have examples in and out of the Bible that knew their worth was of equal value and found in God alone!




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I do not know where you thought you would be on this day, April 21st, six weeks ago if I had asked you. I can bet that you would not have told me that you would be quarantined in your home. If you had asked me where I would be, I would have told you that I would be on a jet plane headed for Harare Africa via Dubai! 

Jim and I had planned this mission trip to visit our missionaries there, and speak to as well as encourage the pastors and pastors wives that they work alongside. There was a ‘Pastor’s Conference’ planned and it was to begin only 2 days from now! All the preparations were made, the tickets were bought and the passports were ready! The location for the conference was secured and the topics to be shared selected. We fully expected to have nothing standing in our way. We did not expect a virus to cause the known to become unknown!

There is someone who knew I would not be on that plane even though the tickets were bought. There is someone who knew that the talks Jim and I were preparing would not be spoken at this time. There is someone who knew that while the preparations for the conference were being made it would not take place at this time.


In Jeremiah God speaks to His people through His prophet and tells them that even though they may be in captivity, exiled from their home in Jerusalem to a foreign land, God KNOWS and He has plans for them!  

You see, they would be in captivity for a time, and they would need to persevere and remain faithful. If they did, God had plans for their good, and HOPE for their future. They just needed to trust and pray!

I KNOW the plans I have for you,” says The Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a HOPE.”  In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me.”  Jeremiah 29:11-13

This is not where I planned to be 6 weeks ago! I am guessing it is not where you planned to be either? But knowing that God knew, even when I did not know, gives me confidence to believe HE’S GOT THIS!

I did not expect to be quarantined this long. But I bet the Israelites did not expect to be in captivity for 70 years either!

God is FAITHFUL Friends! If we Trust in His knowing and not our own, and we pray to Him, HE WILL LISTEN!




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This Easter Sunday looked like no other Easter Sunday in my lifetime!

At Easter time my mind is usually full of questions of preparation. Preparations for gathering together. 

What will our Easter services be like?

What will I fill the Easter baskets with? 

Do I have enough Easter eggs to hide for the Easter egg hunt with the kids?

What will I wear to church on Easter Sunday? 

What will I cook for Easter dinner? 

How many people will gather together, and will I have all of the ingredients to make it the perfect Easter celebration?

Did I remember to buy all of the toppings so the grandkids can decorate the Easter bunny cake?

Did we order the honey baked ham that is my son-in-law‘s favorite?

And most importantly, do we have enough Martinelli‘s sparkling cider to go around?

After all, I do live in Sonoma County now and Martinelli‘s is right around the corner!

Not one of these Easter questions that have run through my mind on every Easter I’ve been alive on this planet, ran through my head this year!

This year the coronavirus stopped me from gathering at all!

As I sat for a moment in my grief at the loss of gathering and doing the things I am used to doing on Easter, my spirit was checked.

I felt my spirit awakened to the truth that the real Easter is UNSTOPPABLE!

No lack of gathering for Easter services, Easter dinners, Easter baskets, or Easter egg hunts could stop the UNSTOPPABLE resurrection of Jesus Christ!

Not wars, not famine‘s, not earthquakes, not natural disasters, and not viruses can stop our unstoppable God!

Easter DID happen this year my friends! It may have looked different than any other Easter that we have celebrated! But the truth of Easter is an empty grave and victory over death! Our God is unstoppable and if we believe in him we are unstoppable too!

I will build my church and the gates of hell will not prevail against it!”  Matthew 16:18

This virus has gone on longer than any of us anticipated. It has caused us to change and adjust many of the ways we do things! But what it should never do is defeat us!  

As one of my favorite Pastors said on Easter Sunday morning, “We should never live in the attitude of defeat asking, ‘what if?’ because we serve a risen Savior, and UNSTOPPABLE God, we should live in the attitude of, ‘even though!’”

Even though I cannot gather at church on Easter Sunday, Jesus has still risen from the dead!

Even though I cannot gather with my extended family and have Easter dinner, my family loves me and I love them!

Even though my Easter baskets and Easter egg hunts may look very different this year, I still celebrate that all things are made new through the resurrection of Jesus Christ!




Things may look very different for a time my friends. But it is temporary!

What lasts forever is Christ’s Victory on the cross! Abuse could not stop Him! Ridicule could not stop Him! Torture could not stop Him! Separation could not stop Him!



And we are UNSTOPPABLE through Him!

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I am feeling anything but VICTORIOUS this week as I feel alone and isolated.
My attempts to stay connected to others though Zoom meetings, phone calls, text messages, and Facetime calls, have worked somewhat, but as they end I find myself longing for more!
I have taken on HOME projects that have been neglected for lack of time, but let’s face it, my “empty nest” syndrome has left me with very few of those!  I love my “quiet times” with God and cherish that golden couple of hours in the morning when I sit in solitude and read His Word and hear His voice only!
Problem is, after that life giving time of solitude with God, I NEED PEOPLE!
I started to feel guilty as I wondered what is wrong with me?  I should relish this interrupted period of time in our lives when the “Rat Race,” has come to a screeching halt!  I mean what is wrong with me? I’ve written Blog posts before on the “Craziness of Life.”  Now, here I am, presented with the opportunity to slow down the pace and I find myself craving the race!
But is it the “Race” that I crave? Am I not appreciating this season of slowing down? Am I not taking advantage of the opportunities to reach out to people, encourage them, communicate with them and let them know they are not alone and neither am I? Am I not taking seriously the changes and adaptations we have had to make in our ministry to meet the needs of our people in a different manner? Am I not taking every opportunity I can to read more of God’s Word and His Truth through His Word, additional books and pod casts? Am I not trying new recipes and exercises to keep my health and nutrition at it’s optimal?
The answer to all of theses questions is a resounding YES! I am doing my best to maintain a positive outlook on this unprecedented crisis in our world!  I am trusting in my Savior, Jesus Christ, to give me the strength and endurance to keep my focus on Him and His Word. I am praying as He modeled that, “God’s Will Would Be Done.”  I am calling on Him for His wisdom to adapt and change and meet the needs of the people He has called me to love and minister to.  I am changing up my routine and trying new recipes and exercises.  Yet, I still really miss people!
This week was the hardest week for me through this crisis thus far.  I found myself praying about writing my Blog this week and I was overcome with a sense of gilt and shame.
How can I write on VICTORY when I feel like a failure?
Then Jesus did what only He can do!  He spoke to me in His still small voice…
“I too felt lonely!”
“I too felt sad and unsupported.”
 “I too desired the company of those closest to me.”
I was reading through the book of Luke and there it was, God’s Truth staring me in the face! I have had the practice of reading through the last week of Jesus’ life on Earth in the book of Luke from Palm Sunday to Easter Sunday for the last 20 years or so.  And here it was as fresh as the newly baked muffins I pulled out from my oven, Jesus had been alone, grieved(aka sad,) unsupported by people, and desperately sought the company of those closest to Him in His greatest hour of need!
“Then, accompanied by His disciples, Jesus left the upstairs room and went as usual to the Mount of Olives.  There He told them, “Pray that you will not give into temptation…He walked about a stone’s throw away, and knelt down and prayed.”   Luke 22:39, 41
BUT GOD WAS BIGGER!  Through the grief, the loneliness and the pain, JESUS endured the cross and was VICTORIOUS over death!

His VICTORY did not come without sacrifice!
 He endured the loneliness of separation from the people He came to save as they yelled, “Blessings on the King who comes in the name of The Lord!  Peace in heaven, and glory in highest heaven.” Luke 19:38
Then within less than a week their cries turned to, “Kill Him, and release Barabbas to us!” Luke 23:18
He endured the loneliness of separation from those closest to Him as He prayed pleading prayers to God!  “At last He stood up again and returned to the disciples, only to find them asleep, and exhausted from grief.”  Luke 22:45
And finally, Jesus not only endured the pain and suffering of excruciating torture and death by crucifixion, but the worst kind of loneliness, separation from God Himself!
“By this time it was about noon, and darkness fell across the whole land until three o’clock. The light from the sun was gone. And suddenly, the curtain in the sanctuary of the Temple was torn down the middle. Then Jesus shouted, “Father, I entrust my spirit into your hands!”  And with those words He breathed His last.”    Luke 23:44-46
Jesus felt the loneliness of separation from people, close friends and even God Himself!
He was sad, disappointed and even grieved.  Yet it did not stop Him from being VICTORIOUS!
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As we celebrate Easter this year and it looks “different” than we have ever experienced it before,  REMEMBER, GOD IS BIGGER than the Corona Virus!
God is Bigger than our separation and isolation!
God is BIGGER than anything we face now or will ever face, and the empty grave proves it!
“Why are you looking among the dead for someone who is alive? 
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